How Does Death Change a Person 

21 Mar 2023

The death of someone dear to us is a major event that can change us. Often at first, our emotional response is grief, which is different for everyone. It takes time for us to heal and some might take years before they feel all right again. 

Death is a part of life 

As we get older, some of the people we know or care about might get into a serious accident or develop terminal or chronic illnesses. During our lifetimes, some of them might die. And as we live longer and get older, we might continue to lose more of our friends and loved ones. 

Although everyone is aware of that already and we know that death is inevitable, it’s still difficult to accept. Even if we’re certain that it’s coming for someone because of a terminal illness, the death is still extremely painful and difficult to cope with. That death of a loved one, no matter how much we rationalise and prepare for it, can still leave a permanent mark to us and perhaps change us. 

For example, after the death of a loved one, we might become more thankful of our moments with the loved ones still here with us. We might start to spend more time with the people we value most, given our knowledge that life is temporary and meant to be cherished. We might start to feel more appreciation for what others are doing for us. 

However, there are also cases when people isolate themselves and start living alone. They might start becoming inactive and less present during gatherings and even during everyday interactions. Whether it’s temporary or permanent, they have coped with death and grief in a different way. The death of a loved one might have changed their perspective about the meaning of life. 

Death changes us, whether we’re aware of it or not. Grief is a huge emotional experience that can leave a permanent mark to us. And as we get older, we might still not get better with coping with grief. That’s because the pain and memories will always be there.